Reactions/Responses Grief is the price you pay for love. Most often we are not prepared for the emotions and behaviors associated with a loss. It is not unusual to:
Feel numb and physically exhausted, but have difficulty sleeping.
Be unable to function effectively - wander aimlessly, forget what you are doing, feel restless and unable to concentrate.
Hurt so much that you may even want to die.
Cry a lot and at unexpected times.
Feel lonely and isolated, but not interested in once enjoyable activities.
Feel angry and hostile.
Feel guilty or feel relief.
Sense your loved one's presence, need to tell stories about your loved one.
Have feelings of panic and depression.
Readjustment Resolving grief often takes longer than people expect. Grief is nature's way of healing a broken heart. Make a start toward healing and growth:
Be patient with yourself. Heal in your own way and time - there is not a set way or time.
Monitor your health - eat well and exercise.
Cry when you have to - laugh when you can.
Share the pain of your darkness with a friend or friends. Talk about your loved one.
For support, encouragement and friendship, join a group of others who are grieving. Seek professional help if needed.*
Seek solace from your religious faith.
Help others - devote your energies to people and causes which you consider worthwhile.
Determine to live again - Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.
Every person must cope with loss of a loved on his or her own terms. The emotional upheaval these trying times can cause is sometimes so overwhelming that even the support of friends and family may not help relieve the amount of sadness and grief you feel.
The following aftercare resources are available:
Willowgreen A leading provider of information and inspiration in the areas of illness and dying, loss and grief, healthy caregiving, life transition, and spirituality.
GriefNet GriefNet is an Internet community of persons dealing with grief, death, and major loss. They have many email support groups. Their integrated approach to online grief support provides help to people working through loss and grief issues